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Your Child’s Behaviors Aren’t “Bad”…

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Your Child’s Behaviors Aren’t “Bad”…

When trying to make sense of your child’s challenging behaviors, I invite you to not categorize them as “bad” or “good”; rather as a form of communication.

What do I mean by that?

We all communicate with others in a variety of ways throughout the day. The most obvious form is verbal communication. Everything from saying, “hi”, to telling someone you “love them” is a form of verbal communication. 

What we don’t tend to focus on are the types of communication that exist outside of verbal communication.

Gestures such as pointing, clapping and waving are all forms of communication. 

Positioning your body towards or away from a communicative partner is a form of communication.

Pushing materials away from someone OR pulling at something is a form of communication.

My challenge for you is to spend the next week observing all the forms of communication you see happening between You and Your Partner. You and Your Children. You and Your Parents. And, instead of labeling those behaviors as “good” or “bad”, separate them into two categories: 

  1. Behaviors you want to Increase (because they result in favorable outcomes)
  2. Behaviors you want to Decrease (because they result in unfavorable outcomes) 

Why should you do this? 

Well, this is the first step to mindfully address any challenging behavior.  Feel free to comment below with any questions and don’t forget to check out the attached guide titled,  ‘Behavior is Communication List’!